What does depression feel like?
"To me there was only one difference between cancer and depression. With Cancer you die a slow death once. Depression in my opinion was a cancer of the mind and soul. It constantly ripped me from my hopes, dreams, friends, and reality. The loneliness alone was unbearable... "
-Taujai , The Swan's Sorrow
"It was not really alarming at first, since the change was subtle, but I did notice that my surroundings took on a different tone at certain times: the shadows of nightfall seemed more somber, my mornings were less buoyant, walks in the woods became less zestful, and there was a moment during my working hours in the late afternoon when a kind of panic and anxiety overtook me..." - William Styron, Darkness Visible
"I'm frightened. I'm always anticipating that someone is going to scream at me, a cop in the street, my boss. I'm sure I'm going to be held up or get a flat tire at rush hour. Every ache and pain in my body convinces me I'm going to die of cancer. I can't sleep. I wake up in the early hours of the morning terrified. I'm either afraid of dying or that the house is going to be broken into. I have nightmares. I wake up sweating, paralyzed with fear. It's been several weeks now. I think I can't make it, I can't go through another day and night feeling this way. I feel beaten up, my body feels as if I've been in a fight. Nobody seems to understand."
- Richard, You Are Not Alone
"I have secluded myself from society; and yet I never meant any such thing. I have made a captive of myself and put me into a dungeon, and now I cannot find the key to let myself out."
- Nathaniel Hawthorne
"I didn't know what was the matter with me. All I knew was that I was feeling lower than a snake's belly... I remember we used to go to restaurants, and I'd say 'Everybody's pointing at me, the cheat, the fraud, the fake.' You really believe these things! Astonishing!"
- Mike Wallace, On the Edge of Darkness
"When you're depressed, there's no calendar. There are no dates, there's no day, there's no night, there's no seconds, there's no minutes, there's nothing. You're just existing in this cold, murky, ever-heavy atmosphere, like they put you inside a vial of mercury."
- Rod Steiger, On the Edge of Darkness
"I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would be not one cheerful face on earth. Whether I shall ever be better, I cannot tell. I awfully forebode I shall not. To remain as I am is impossible. I must die or be better it appears to me."
- Abraham Lincoln
" I had pains in my arms and a kind of weakness in my legs. I would be asking questions in an interview, and suddenly I wouldn't be able to hear the answer, or think of the next question. My mind was on a completely different plane. I had no memory, no powers of concentration. If you asked me questions about a newspaper column I'd read two minutes before, I wouldn't have been able to answer."
- Jodie, You Are Not Alone- Mike Wallace, On the Edge of Darkness- Rod Steiger, On the Edge of Darkness
"It's difficult for the public to realize how powerful the mind is, and how much pain the mind can give you. When you're depressed, it's as though this committee has taken over your mind, leaving you one depressing thought after the other. You don't shave, you don't shower, you don't brush your teeth. You don't care. The one thing I did do, I still ate a little bit. But I didn't have much of an appetite. I know a lot of people who say they didn't eat at all."
"I went to my church and found a free counseling group. The people there have stories similar to mine. We help each other. We talk about how we feel. I'm amazed that so many people feel like me. I thought I was alone."
"The first thing I try to remind myself is not to look at the big picture. When I'm depressed I tend to worry about the big picture, the issues I can't control. I work myself into a tizzy about my financial future, my health, whether my grown children and grandchildren are in danger, whether my house is going to be broken into, all the chores I haven't done in the house, whether my wife is going to have an accident. I self-abuse with anxiety about things that haven't happened. To counteract this bad habit I say to myself, "Earl, small tasks, small steps, one at a time. You can only manage the immediate. If you waste your energy worrying about the future you'll ignore the immediate, and it's only the present you have any control over." Then I find small tasks that I can accomplish and - most important - that I like doing. I'll prune my lemon trees. I'll putter around in the garage, maybe even wash the car. I'll carve an animal for my grandson. Once I've accomplished them, I stop and congratulate myself for a job well done."
-Earl, You Are Not Alone
"You just have to watch yourself, you have to take your medicines, and you have to be more intelligent about yourself. You have to keep moving when you begin to feel like you don't want to move. You have to occupy yourself, get out of the house. You have to learn all those things, go for a swim when you don't want to swim, go for a walk when you don't want to walk... I know all the intellectual things. Have the courage to keep moving. KEEP MOVING, that's what my license plate on one car says. The other plate says COURAGE. Don't stay in bed. Get out. Now that I'm better, if I feel a little unhappy or uneasy or I feel what I call the cold water begin to fill up and my legs turn to icy concrete, I head for the swimming pool, exercise and get the endorphins up, get them going. I exercise for a half hour, twenty minutes, and I feel better."- Rod Steiger, On the Edge of Darkness
"Some of my friends were intolerant of my depression. Every time I was with them I felt guilty. They always said something that made me feel guilty. Perhaps they'd say, "For heaven's sake, cheer up, you're making us feel horrible." Or, "What you have to do is get up and do something." Of course, I was so depressed that I couldn't even think of what I might want to do. I'd feel like a failure because I couldn't do anything. On top of it, I'd feel responsible for my friends' feelings. Other friends showed concern. They'd talk with me about my feelings and invite me to the movies. Slowly I learned to spend time with friends who supported me."
- Craig, You Are Not Alone
"I don't know how you explain depression to people like my wife. I can't even approach the subject of anybody's emotional disorder. She can't even fathom why it would happen... My wife has a chemical balance that works twenty-four hours a day, with very few ups and downs, and she has very little sympathy for anyone who has mood swings. Her reaction to the problem is 'You'll be all right tomorrow. Don't even think about it.' It's like Scarlett O'Hara, 'I'll worry about it tomorrow.' Those people are very fortunate. But they don't make good counselors. If you are one of those people, in the company of someone who's depressed, you've got to realize that your happy, cheerful, pat-them-on-the-back, it's-gonna-be-all-right attitude won't work."
- Dick Clark, On the Edge of Darkness
"Only my really good friends know. And even my daughter I don't show it to. You cannot take a twenty-two-year-old girl and burden her with 'I'm so down, I'm so depressed, I'm so scared, I'm so worried.'"
- Joan Rivers, On the Edge of Darkness
"How can you tell anyone how you feel when you're depressed? No one wants to be around someone who's down. Who wants to spend time with someone who's full of fear, anger, and sadness? That's a real downer. Besides, I don't know anyone who's gone through what I'm going through now. What can I say to a friend? That I want to check out, that I want to go to sleep and never wake up, that I'm so terrified of life that I can't get up in the morning, that I'm becoming a victim of delusions and hysteria? Nobody wants to hear that. People will think I'm some kind of nut case, that I'm a wimp, a weakling. It's so lonely being depressed."
- Clara, You Are Not Alone
"...the gray drizzle of horror induced by depression takes on the quality of physical pain. But it is not an immediately identifiable pain, like that of a broken limb. It may be more accurate to say that despair, owing to some evil trick played upon the sick brain by the inhabiting psyche, comes to resemble the diabolical discomfort of being imprisoned in a fiercely overheated room. And because no breeze stirs this cauldron, because there is no escape from this smothering confinement, it is entirely natural that the victim begins to think ceaselessly of oblivion."
- Joan Rivers, On the Edge of Darkness- William Styron, Darkness Visible
"I was alone upstairs. I opened a drawer and there was a gun. I took the gun and sat down in my dressing room, with the gun in my lap, and I thought, 'It would be so easy. I want to be out of all this pain. I just want to be out of it.' It's not even so much pain, but the aching weariness of the whole thing; I just wanted to be out of it all. Oh, I was so down. I thought, 'I can't fight anymore. I can't go on anymore. I'm so weary, God, what's the point?' But when my dog came in and sat in my lap, I thought, 'Who's going to take care of Spike?'"
- Arlene, You Are Not Alone
"My husband didn't take me seriously. I can remember lying in bed at night mumbling, 'I just want to die.' He would tell me I was being melodramatic. He'd say, 'It makes me nervous to hear you talk like that. Besides, you have so much to live for!' One day all I could think about was dying. I was going to go to the basement and kill myself with drugs, alcohol, and a plastic bag. I was terrified - of myself, of living, of dying. Somewhere in the back of my mind a little voice kept echoing the TV ad of the Samaritans, a suicide prevention group. I called them. They were the first step to getting help for myself. Now I tell everyone who will listen, 'Never ignore a person - even a small kid - who says he or she wants to die. It could be too late.'"
All quotes, excluding those by Taujai, were taken from Wing Of Madness: A Depression Guide.